NdiliQhawe: A pregnancy scare, flu from hell, dreams & one Amanda

For as long as I could remember I was always doing something. Always dreaming, building, and wanting something bigger. As a really little kid, this involved taking care of grasshoppers. I was maybe 10 and I would keep them in a pencil case with grass, some water, and...

#BookMeWednesday: MY TOP AFRICAN READS

Anyone that knows me knows of my love for the written word. This past decade has seen the explosion of African literature which has been awesome for readers, such as myself, hungry for books that speak to the African experience and has characters that we can relate...

#TabooThursday: THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT DO IN GHANA

Let me start out by saying that Ghanaians are a group of people who love to follow protocol. We believe things are set in place for a reason and the older those things are the more we must cling to them because you know, tradition. To non-Ghanaians, some of these...

#BookMeWednesday: 3 BOOKS THAT WILL LEAVE YOU QUESTIONING SOCIETY

goodreads.com & blackbookquotes.com 1. Things Fall Apart Every time I meet an African that has not read this book, I honestly judge them. Things fall Apart by Chinua Achebe was one of my earliest reads growing up. I love this book because of its writing style...

5 RULES TO HEALTHY EATING (THE SELF-CARE SERIES)

I'm not sure what possessed me to speak on this subject cause I'm sure I struggle just as much as the next person when it comes to eating healthy. It's like laundry, we all want to do it but when it comes to doing it the voices in your head whisper "but do we have...

NdiliQhawe: 16 years later, I found confidence

Growing up I had a small body and so I suffered from an inferiority complex, I saw myself as insignificant and I doubted my capabilities and failed to realize that dynamites come in small packages, I always thought that others people were better than me and always...

I ABORTED & IT SAVED MY LIFE

My period was 4 days late and it was never late. The sore breasts, the puking, the cramps, although these were all symptoms I faced whenever I was on my period anyway. Not to mention the fatigue these past few days. I checked my calendar for the hundredth time before...

NdiliQhawe: Our Vaginas Still Need New Names

Taboo. Uttering the word vagina is taboo in my country. Taboo things and practices are usually proscribed to women. The Oxford dictionary defines taboo as: 1. A social or religious custom prohibiting or restricting a particular practice or forbidding association with...

HOW TO ORGANIZE YOUR VALUES, BELIEFS & RULES

One of the things you have to do when navigating the murky waters of finding out who you are is understanding that there's a difference between your values, beliefs, and rules. While the three are different from each other, they are also very much related and come...
What it really means to live abroad.

What it really means to live abroad.

One day in class, a guy I thought was insanely beautiful asked me if I wanted to give him “head.” At the time of my life, I was scared to ask questions because I didn’t want to be branded as a FOB (fresh off the boat- someone who just landed abroad). Up until that...

The story of cold winters, racism and life changes.

The story of cold winters, racism and life changes.

It was mid-summer in Zimbabwe when my uprooting happened. I knew that this was coming, but my 10-year-old mind had not fully grasped what it meant for the future. I didn’t know I was facing one of the biggest changes in my life. I had just turned 11 when my mother...

NdiliQhawe: Teen mom with a goal!

NdiliQhawe: Teen mom with a goal!

I was a teen mom and now I'm a young mom, who's ambitions are far beyond someone who has a whole family to look after. After having my daughter at 19, with no clear knowing of myself, I dropped out of 2nd year... All because I was 5 months pregnant and had no other...

NdiliQhawe:  Our Vaginas Still Need New Names

NdiliQhawe: Our Vaginas Still Need New Names

Taboo. Uttering the word vagina is taboo in my country. Taboo things and practices are usually proscribed to women. The Oxford dictionary defines taboo as: 1. A social or religious custom prohibiting or restricting a particular practice or forbidding association with...

NdiliQhawe: 16 years later, I found confidence

NdiliQhawe: 16 years later, I found confidence

Growing up I had a small body and so I suffered from an inferiority complex, I saw myself as insignificant and I doubted my capabilities and failed to realize that dynamites come in small packages, I always thought that others people were better than me and always...