One day in class, a guy I thought was insanely beautiful asked me if I wanted to give him “head.” At the time of my life, I was scared to ask questions because I didn’t want to be branded as a FOB (fresh off the boat- someone who just landed abroad). Up until that...
The story of cold winters, racism and life changes.
It was mid-summer in Zimbabwe when my uprooting happened. I knew that this was coming, but my 10-year-old mind had not fully grasped what it meant for the future. I didn’t know I was facing one of the biggest changes in my life. I had just turned 11 when my mother...
NdiliQhawe: Teen mom with a goal!
I was a teen mom and now I'm a young mom, who's ambitions are far beyond someone who has a whole family to look after. After having my daughter at 19, with no clear knowing of myself, I dropped out of 2nd year... All because I was 5 months pregnant and had no other...
NdiliQhawe: Our Vaginas Still Need New Names
Taboo. Uttering the word vagina is taboo in my country. Taboo things and practices are usually proscribed to women. The Oxford dictionary defines taboo as: 1. A social or religious custom prohibiting or restricting a particular practice or forbidding association with...
NdiliQhawe: A pregnancy scare, flu from hell, dreams & one Amanda
For as long as I could remember I was always doing something. Always dreaming, building, and wanting something bigger. As a really little kid, this involved taking care of grasshoppers. I was maybe 10 and I would keep them in a pencil case with grass, some water, and...
NdiliQhawe: 16 years later, I found confidence
Growing up I had a small body and so I suffered from an inferiority complex, I saw myself as insignificant and I doubted my capabilities and failed to realize that dynamites come in small packages, I always thought that others people were better than me and always...