HOW TO FIND YOUR VOICE

I remember when I started blogging and my blog was an actual mess. It had too many names, too many categories, nothing made sense except for the stuff I wrote of course. I look back and I realize that I had something in me that I wanted to say but didn’t know how to...

10 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT AN ALPHA FEMALE

There are days I wish I was an alpha female.. God knows I would lean on myself more than other people. I would walk the streets, look people in the eye and never be afraid to ask them why they are looking. I would call people out on their bullshit, out loud, right...

Feeling Powerful Cause You Are Straight?

This post is inspired by Pose season 3. This show is excellent, it really tells the stories of the LGBTQIA+ community so well. There are struggles I already knew but watching the show opened my eyes to the amount of privilege that I live in. Simple things like if I...

HOW TO ASK A GIRL OUT…

There seems to be a serious problem on our hands and we need to fix it. I feel like if I roll my eyes one more time for every dumb thing a guy does or says to 'impress' me they won't unroll. I take the fault on behalf of the ladies, cause we haven't made enough the...

SEX & THE FIRST LETTER OF YOUR NAME…

Sex and your name (it seems to run true!!!) According to studies, your sexual identity is revealed by the First letter of your First name …what do you think? (Those of you with names that start with "N" will probably wish it started with "K"!) ...

8 WAYS TO SURVIVE YOUR 20’S

I have not made it out of my 20's yet and quite frankly half the time I am choked up, curled up into a ball and contemplating life. Nobody ever warned us about this adulting thing, they painted a picture of financial freedom and so much more. What is freedom when the...

UNTIL IT HAPPENS TO YOU CHAPTER 5

X found a new place and guess who was in the front line to help him move, your girl! I was so excited and in my head, I was about to live happily ever after. I remember getting to the old place and the landlady was sitting outside, monitoring movement. She could...

FIRST MATCH

A story about a young girl whose father was locked up when she was 5 and I have no idea where the mother was, I might have missed it. She was moved from foster house to foster house mostly because she was a rebel and the foster mother kicked her out. Her best friend...

REASONS OUR LIVES ARE UNFULFILLED

We are the chosen generation,right? I mean can we surely sing and shout it out loud that we are chosen. We have it good and can totally conquer. I guess we sorta, kinda are but most of the time we are in limbo. You may be thinking, 'Bu, I'm as stable as a horse,' well...
Feeling Powerful Cause You Are Straight?

Feeling Powerful Cause You Are Straight?

This post is inspired by Pose season 3. This show is excellent, it really tells the stories of the LGBTQIA+ community so well. There are struggles I already knew but watching the show opened my eyes to the amount of privilege that I live in. Simple things like if I...

I am Not Cut Out For Motherhood

I am Not Cut Out For Motherhood

I was watching The Bold Type season 4 episode 14 when I got the urge to write on this. Let me give you a little background so you understand how this all began. Sutton had just gotten married to her lover, Richard, a wedding that we had all been waiting for. A few...

Do You Really Know Your Worth?

Do You Really Know Your Worth?

The saying, ‘Know your worth,’ is thrown around a lot on the internet these days. Nine times out of ten this statement is used in reference to a relationship that has gone sour. Someone cheats and the definition of knowing your worth is walking away from the...

Why you need to learn and understand HIV/AIDS

Why you need to learn and understand HIV/AIDS

I wrote this piece titled I am sorry in the year 2015 and when I read it today, I see where I was coming from but there are parts of this blog post that show my ignorance in the matter. Whilst I took the time to get in the shoes of the person who was born HIV...

Sex and orgasms, a woman’s first love.

Sex and orgasms, a woman’s first love.

'Act like a lady.' This is something I am sure many girls have been told, we are raised to act a certain way so that we can be perfect candidates for the wife role. I was once told to 'laugh like a lady,' and I was not sure if I was meant to kiki instead of just...