This journey ends here for me.

Hey, there world, I know you had not heard from me for a while and I can explain. Well sort of. Lol We have been living in a panini press (read pandemic) for over a year now and dare I say it is our new norm now. Last year was difficult for all of us, we struggled...

UNTIL IT HAPPENS TO YOU CHAPTER 13

I received a DM one day, and it was from this designer I followed on Instagram. Her work was absolutely great and I wanted to model for her. One day I had dropped a comment on her post, something about wanting to model for her and she responded positively then...

I BET YOU DIDN’T KNOW

Yesterday my plan was to camp in my space, work on the intro of my book and a couple of blog posts but see things come up. I received a WA  message from a friend who said she needed my help, urgently. She almost always comes through for me so I was not about to...

10 REASONS WHY YOU ARE SUFFERING FROM INSMONIA

It was a Thursday night when I lay in bed and couldn’t get myself to sleep. I tossed and turned and decided to grab my phone and google why we suffer from insomnia. I found myself reading one article after the other, I was really amazed by what I came across. Most...

IF YOU ARE SMART BUT UNSUCCESSFUL, HERE IS WHY…

Let’s agree that the most frustrating being you can be in the world is smart but unsuccessful. More-so because if you are smart it’s generally believed that you are destined to be a success. You are probably more creative than many others. Yet the reality on the...

UNTIL IT HAPPENS TO YOU CHAPTER 4

My sister went away for the weekend and I was home alone. She suggested I invite X over for the weekend so I don't get bored. I thought that was a dope plan, might as well meet this man, right? So I invited him and he agreed to come over. This man ditched work so he...

TRANSPARENCY- AN INSPIRATION

Another Wednesday, another crush. Listen, I am upset with this here crush because one of their blogs played with my mind. I had that, 'I did not see that coming,' moment. So in this narrative there was a man named Peter if I am not mistaken, this man saved an elephant...

10 WAYS TO STOP SELF-SABOTAGING

Why are you afraid of your power? Someone once said to me we are not afraid to fail, we are afraid to succeed. I really thought they were crazy for saying that, it made no sense to me. It was only years later, when my cocoon was about break open when I realized how...

THE EFFECTS OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE

Wow! I played myself. 100% played myself! I walked into a trigger and had told myself I would never, lesson one trust your instincts. I watched surviving R Kelly, for those of you who are new to my blog I was abused as a child. I talk about it more in this blog post,...
Feeling Powerful Cause You Are Straight?

Feeling Powerful Cause You Are Straight?

This post is inspired by Pose season 3. This show is excellent, it really tells the stories of the LGBTQIA+ community so well. There are struggles I already knew but watching the show opened my eyes to the amount of privilege that I live in. Simple things like if I...

I am Not Cut Out For Motherhood

I am Not Cut Out For Motherhood

I was watching The Bold Type season 4 episode 14 when I got the urge to write on this. Let me give you a little background so you understand how this all began. Sutton had just gotten married to her lover, Richard, a wedding that we had all been waiting for. A few...

Do You Really Know Your Worth?

Do You Really Know Your Worth?

The saying, ‘Know your worth,’ is thrown around a lot on the internet these days. Nine times out of ten this statement is used in reference to a relationship that has gone sour. Someone cheats and the definition of knowing your worth is walking away from the...

Why you need to learn and understand HIV/AIDS

Why you need to learn and understand HIV/AIDS

I wrote this piece titled I am sorry in the year 2015 and when I read it today, I see where I was coming from but there are parts of this blog post that show my ignorance in the matter. Whilst I took the time to get in the shoes of the person who was born HIV...

Sex and orgasms, a woman’s first love.

Sex and orgasms, a woman’s first love.

'Act like a lady.' This is something I am sure many girls have been told, we are raised to act a certain way so that we can be perfect candidates for the wife role. I was once told to 'laugh like a lady,' and I was not sure if I was meant to kiki instead of just...