FETISHES YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT

We are about to walk into a moment of shocking knowledge. If you are eating, you may want to close this blog post, digest then you can come back later. However, I do promise you a laugh because human beings are truly amazing and complicated creatures. Here we go. I...

MisPlaced until you Place Yourself 

Reflecting back She has never quite belonged, The world has not allowed her to have a place she called home , From the home she was born into wait she doesnt remember that place, The place she grew up in wait she doesn't remember that either, She was taken home at...

Till you lonely..

Many years have gone by but you, you haven't quite figured things out now have you? You haven't made a choice between lonely and sociable. You are  stuck in between, unsure of what it is you stand for. Is it failure to make a choice or you enjoy the back and forth?...

6 THINGS THAT WILL MAKE YOUR MAN GENUINELY HAPPY

Remember last weeks post? We were here talking about whether or not we know what makes our men genuinely happy in a relationship. The two basics I got from women are sex and food. But I took the time out to think about it, and I came to realize we might not be doing...

LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX, BABY!

Going into a relationship sex is usually the easy part, but like any other part of a relationship sooner or later you will find yourself needing to talk about it with your partner. The talk can easily be anything from positions to frequency. Being two individuals with...

OLD SCHOOL JAMS SUITED FOR FOREPLAY

Sex me already! This is the music that will have you ready for the strokes before he or she is done teasing you with whatever tricks they have up their sleeves. I mean, the lyrics alone, gad dammit! LL COOL J - DOING IT It's our first time together and I'm feeling...

HOW TO REBUILD YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR EX

I can already hear the grunting and the high toned question, 'why would I want to go back to my ex?' Quick reality check, we do this all the time but want to act like we are gurus at shutting doors during the people. Cut the act, the heart wants what it wants. So...

HOW I DEALT WITH UNFAMILIAR PAIN

It can't be described in words yet here I am typing this blog post. Heartbreak is one thing we all have experienced, whether it's losing a loved one to death or just going your separate ways with someone you thought you would build forever with. Of course the pain...

A LETTER TO FEAR

Dear Fear Wow, I can’t believe I am sitting here writing this letter to you. I never thought I would have to walk away from our friendship. We had a good thing going and that’s why my heart breaks that I have got to let you go but hey. They do say selfishness is...
WHY PAIN AND HURT ARE PART OF YOUR HEALING

WHY PAIN AND HURT ARE PART OF YOUR HEALING

There was a time when I was home alone and I had gone out into town for some errands. And as I was getting into a kombi (taxi) two men played major tricks on me and I didn't realize they were stealing my phone. It was only when I had settled and wanted to pull it and...

HOW I DEALT WITH UNFAMILIAR PAIN

HOW I DEALT WITH UNFAMILIAR PAIN

It can't be described in words yet here I am typing this blog post. Heartbreak is one thing we all have experienced, whether it's losing a loved one to death or just going your separate ways with someone you thought you would build forever with. Of course the pain...

How being cheated on changes you internally

How being cheated on changes you internally

Dealing with the internal mental things that go on with finding out you were cheated on. Self doubt, low self esteem, bargaining etc Who am I kidding, we all have plenty stories about this. We could write books and start podcasts about these experiences. The one thing...

How to handle your cheating friend

How to handle your cheating friend

Previously on Becoming uBu, we have been talking about infidelity, catch up on the last two blogs here and here. This one is for the ladies because we all know how men handle this. Men will welcome both the women, they will shower them with compliments, laugh with...

The Infidelity Series: 3 reasons why you cheat

The Infidelity Series: 3 reasons why you cheat

This may not be a fun read for someone who is actually cheating right now. Yikes! But let's have the conversation anyway, why are you cheating? I love hearing people's thoughts, so do share your theory on why you think people cheat. I remember being in high school and...