Loving Yourself Enough To Find True Love

by | Jan 8, 2021 | Navigating Adulting | 0 comments

Here is something many of you may not know about me, I am easily attracted to broken souls. I often tell myself that I can help them patch up the broken pieces and be whole all over again. I have had friends and boyfriends that were broken and by the time I left those relationships I was just as broken if not worse. It is such a terrible toxic cycle that I continue to land myself in and I am tired, it wears my soul out!

I am guessing I do not have to spell out that I have decided to work on this particular problem, getting into relationships where I too am equally important. In most of the cases, I ended up playing mother and got nothing in return, I begged for emotional attention but to them I was just that person they needed to pass the time. It is painful to look back at because I know I gave my all including prayers. What a mess!

It is one thing to find someone who acknowledges their brokenness and puts in the effort to find their healing without being chased and it is another to find someone who is comfortable in their brokenness. I found the comfy ones ALL THE TIME! Now I am very conscious about who I let into my life, I do not want to continue down this path of playing THE HEALER. Let me tell you now that it is not easy, I am a very soft person, I feel deeply and I internalize more than I should so walking away is extremely difficult.

I have been asking the universe to align me with people who will understand me, people who will love me just as much as I will love them, people who respect boundaries and respect me too. Believe me, when I say I see it happening, the universe is answering my prayers and if they were to stop now I would be ok because I have amazing people around me already. And so this one is for my people who love to give, to help, to please other people, be conscious about who you bring into your life. It is always better when your energy is being mirrored back, you too deserve to be given, helped and pleased. (wink wink)

Make a conscious decision today to get into relationships that benefit you too. The ones where you walk in to heal a person and change them into who you think they should be will drain you, they will leave you empty. Love yourself enough to place yourself in a space of love. It will not be easy but it will serve you. I am wishing you the best!


Rose Quartz

Rose Quartz is a pale pink crystal. It is most commonly associated with love, in all of its forms, although many people tend to focus on the sexual relationship aspect of love when describing the qualities of this crystal. The energy of Rose Quartz vibrates in alignment with the energies of the heart chakra and encourages feelings and expressions of warmth, happiness, compassion, understanding, respect, and emotional health.