Protect your energy!!! How many times in a day have you either said this statement or read it? I can safely say as a Twitter fan, I read it at least once every day. And maybe I use a lot too, I am guilty as charged. I say it because I need people to understand it, not just blurt it out. The important questions to ask yourself include who am I spending time with, who is on my timeline, what kind of information am I taking in every day from my surroundings, are my family members sending positive energy?
Cough cough, wink wink, nudge nudge. The last question is one I had to ask myself a few years back and this was after a series of events that continued to draw me into a space of depression. I continued to ask God why I was never given the opportunity to choose my family members because I had seen flames. After battling with guilt, I then decided that I didn’t deserve a life that was centred around bad vibes and always trying to get out of them. Let me tell you, it is very difficult to cut off family members but in most cases it is necessary.
I chose to start a healing process, holding onto the things that had happened in the past was not doing me any good, I needed to move away from that space. I know what you are thinking, you can forgive without cutting people off, very true, but that also works if the person/people hear your cry. There is truth in the saying, ‘if someone shows you who they are, believe them.’ People do not change because you have told them to or expressed your pain so the only other option you have is to separate yourself from them.
So I wrote letters that I later burnt, I needed to let it all out of my system first, that also allowed me to tell my stories from a reflective position instead of a victim position. It opened my eyes to the lessons I needed to learn and only after that did I then walk away from those people if I tell you that I had so much peace after that. This is not to say I hate them, I just know to keep my distance and keep my business to myself. I continued to practice this even with people I once called friends, and from that I learnt that sometimes friends come for a season, to teach you something. When their time is up, it is up.
There is not much you can do to change that, it is ok. I chose to talk about this because I know the amount of toxicity that exists in our families, it often is heavy to bear. In its heaviness, we feel obliged to stick up for them, to look past the hurt and move in the name of love. This is what drains us and brews bitterness. That negative energy affects many parts of our lives, especially our social lives. Keep in mind that sometimes you do get to choose your family, blood doesn’t necessarily make you family.
As I always say choose yourself, you deserve a life filled with light and love. You deserve to wake up with peace in your heart and a smile on your face. There isn’t a single person on God’s green earth that should hold so much power over your life to the extent you live in a cycle of depression. Never hand that power over, take it back if you have. Be intentional about your happiness and peace from today going forward. I shall continue on this journey of letting go and choosing myself too. CIAO!
A CRYSTAL FOR YOUR POSITIVE ENERGY
Garnet is a bright red, fiery crystal of passion and is thought to be one of the oldest crystals used for spiritual protection throughout history. It is often used to dispel negative energy.
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