I am a big fan of The Bold Type and I am sad that it will not be back for another season. I remain grateful that we got the 5 seasons, but this post is inspired by S4 E14 of the show. Allow me to paint the picture for you. Sutton had just gotten married to her lover, Richard. This was a wedding every loyal viewer had been waiting for. You can imagine our joy when we found out Sutton was pregnant. We weren't half as excited as Richard was for...
I have struggled to accept my body for a very long time, I am still learning how to love myself. I have been plus-size for most of my life and unfortunately for me, the world either thinks I am obese or on the verge of death. I have gone through seasons of trying to lose weight because I was tired of the judgement I received from strangers and family members. And I have been wrong about the process of losing weight so many times. Years back,...
I wrote this piece titled I am sorry in the year 2015 and when I read it today, I see where I was coming from but there are parts of this blog post that show my ignorance in the matter. Whilst I took the time to get in the shoes of the person who was born HIV positive, my assumptions around the situation were completely wrong and I would like to correct that today. The stigma that existed around HIV/AIDS for years is what we are continuously...
I write this blog post representing every plus-size person out there. I am here to remind everyone that the way the next person looks does not define them, their skills, their talent or the things that they deserve in life. It does not determine how one should be treated, if you are one who judges people by their body type I am here to remind you that the actual problem lives inside of you. I say this with conviction because I too am guilty of...
This is another new category and what I basically do here is call myself out on the bullshit I believed in. I have written pieces that are very judgemental and lack understanding of what life really is. The first one on the list is the one title H-town vs World. If you have never read it then go ahead and take a sneak peek and then come back to this one. The summary is that I judged people for getting drunk on alcohol instead of the holy...
This morning I sat down to download a couple of Zim songs that I missed, and as I kept going more songs popped up that I had not even thought of. So I went ahead and downloaded those too cause they brought back really good memories. I put together a playlist and I was ready to JAM! And as the playlist went along the famous MMT track came on, Zvidhori. And I found myself bopping, singing along and failing to control my body movements. Then 3...
Alright my people, gather around, please. This is going to be a really short one, maybe not, but I will try. I want to talk to the people who choose to argue with people's bodies and not the actual argument. On countless occasions, I have witnessed twars turn into body wars, when someone hits a jam during an argument their only solution is to zoom into the other persons avi and pick on their features. What is the reason!? How did our...
Written by Amanda Tayte-Tait Marufu My period was 4 days late and it was never late. The sore breasts, the puking, the cramps, although these were all symptoms I faced whenever I was on my period anyway. Not to mention the fatigue these past few days. I checked my calendar for the hundredth time before finally giving in to the sinking feeling in my soul. Maybe I could be pregnant. I dragged myself out of bed and walked the few steps to the...
Written by A Brave Woman I’ve had two abortions all below the age of 18, why you ask? I lacked basic sex education because it's quite taboo to educate young people about sex in Malawi. The first time I got pregnant it took me about five weeks to realize I was pregnant, I and my then-boyfriend didn’t use protection or any form of contraceptives because then I did not know morning-after pills or birth control. I was lucky to have been working...
Written by A woman in pain Our baby would have been born today, do you know that? Our progeny, bone of my bones Our pleasurable mistake but the universe’s manifestation of my deepest desires I am pregnant, three little words with so much weight so much meaning Words with the power to rip us apart or bring us together for a lifetime with us being the former I agonised and you were nonchalant, I guess that was your answer to what we would do...
When you fall and get hurt your healing depends on what you do to help the wound to heal. You have to clean it, dress and band aid it, sometimes you are required to do this twice or thrice a week. In the beginning you will dread each change because removing the band aid will hurt, the dressing will sting too and it's all unbearable yet we have no choice but to go through it because we want to wake up one day and no longer feel the pain. This is...
Do you know how many times I have read a post that reads ‘your workmates are not your friends!’ This seems to be the anthem at many workplaces, and for whatever reason, the image in my head is of a cold place. I see a place that is so quiet you can hear a pin drop because people do not speak to each other, the lighting in the place is also dark. (cringe)That’s obviously not the case but it sounds very rigid, it makes me a little happy that I...
Let’s be friends! Seriously, if you think we would vibe, you know where to find me. Let's get to talking. Today’s blog post is dedicated to those who do not believe in creating friendships. This may be a trauma response to something that may have happened in the past, betrayal or I don’t know, betrayal? It is very normal to find yourself in this space after someone you trusted stabs you in the back. We have all had one or two of those friends...
What are you grateful for today? I probably sound like a broken record to most of my regular readers because I have been saying GET A GRATITUDE JOURNAL! I hope you heard me today and feel extremely pressured to purchase a gratitude journal. However today I want to talk about being grateful to your God, ancestors, spirit guides and the universe. I have told you the power that comes with just being grateful in life, but the power that lives...
Protect your energy!!! How many times in a day have you either said this statement or read it? I can safely say as a Twitter fan, I read it at least once every day. And maybe I use a lot too, I am guilty as charged. I say it because I need people to understand it, not just blurt it out. The important questions to ask yourself include who am I spending time with, who is on my timeline, what kind of information am I taking in every day from my...
Allow me to take you back to 2018 when I completely lost myself. I fell deep into the hole of trying to play the perfect wife and no I was not married. My life however was focused on playing a part I had no passion for, I was doing what I thought would have me accepted by the community. By community I mean the church, I was convinced that if I turned out to be the good wife, my blessings would rain down on me. Laugh with me because I was being...
I just imagined myself trying to stand on one leg with my other foot touching my knee and toppling over. This is how I feel most of our balance is, we are living in a world where everything is moving a little too fast. We don't realize it because it is our norm, even when we were younger, we were up at 6 in the morning to get ready for school. In that hour we had to shower, dress up, have breakfast and be in the car before our parents. Then...
Self-love is very hard to practice and I will tell you why. The world we live in has way too many unrealistic rules. We are expected to be ‘acceptable’ human beings and the definition of acceptable wavers with each community. None of the rules say just be yourself! Growing up I was fed so many rules and not just by my family and society but the media too. It became very difficult to find myself let alone accept who I was. I am in my late...
I am a big fan of The Bold Type and I am sad that it will not be back for another season. I remain grateful that we got the 5 seasons, but this post is inspired by S4 E14 of the show. Allow me to paint the picture for you. Sutton had just gotten married to her lover,...
I have struggled to accept my body for a very long time, I am still learning how to love myself. I have been plus-size for most of my life and unfortunately for me, the world either thinks I am obese or on the verge of death. I have gone through seasons of trying to...
I wrote this piece titled I am sorry in the year 2015 and when I read it today, I see where I was coming from but there are parts of this blog post that show my ignorance in the matter. Whilst I took the time to get in the shoes of the person who was born HIV...
I write this blog post representing every plus-size person out there. I am here to remind everyone that the way the next person looks does not define them, their skills, their talent or the things that they deserve in life. It does not determine how one should be...
This is another new category and what I basically do here is call myself out on the bullshit I believed in. I have written pieces that are very judgemental and lack understanding of what life really is. The first one on the list is the one title H-town vs World. If...
This morning I sat down to download a couple of Zim songs that I missed, and as I kept going more songs popped up that I had not even thought of. So I went ahead and downloaded those too cause they brought back really good memories. I put together a playlist and I was...
Alright my people, gather around, please. This is going to be a really short one, maybe not, but I will try. I want to talk to the people who choose to argue with people's bodies and not the actual argument. On countless occasions, I have witnessed twars turn into...
Written by Amanda Tayte-Tait Marufu My period was 4 days late and it was never late. The sore breasts, the puking, the cramps, although these were all symptoms I faced whenever I was on my period anyway. Not to mention the fatigue these past few days. I checked my...