Why walking away is better than being the crazy girlfriend
Once upon a time, I was told a story about my grandmother. She found out that my grandfather was cheating with a young fine ting and she was not amused at all. She set out to the village where this girl stayed or did she lure her into coming to her? I can’t quite...
Every relationship comes with a lesson, here is mine.
There is that one saying we all love throwing around when someone we love has walked out of our lives, and it goes, ‘we meet people for a reason or a season.’ Such a comforting saying. We then follow it up with some heartfelt I love you’s in the hope that someone will...
Are marriages meant to be forever or do we need reviews?
Let me start off by saying I am a very big fan of true crime documentaries and I will watch these at any point of the day if boredom strikes. I really enjoy them but I have to say on most days I am never ready for the shocking bits that each story comes with. Today I...
Why I see a cheat in every man.
“There are good men out there.” A statement that women often bring up during the cheating men conversation. I am not saying that it is untrue, I am saying being a good person has nothing to do with cheating. Good people cheat too. And this is the one reason why in my...
You need to look out for red flags in friendships
When I hear the phrase, 'life is unfair,' the positive human being that lives inside of me wants to counter that with some positive energy. 9/10 it feels like I am covering up and refusing to learn the lesson that is being presented to me. I never imagined that I...
TRUTH IS GRIEF DOESNT HAVE A TIME STAMP
When you fall and get hurt your healing depends on what you do to help the wound to heal. You have to clean it, dress and band aid it, sometimes you are required to do this twice or thrice a week. In the beginning you will dread each change because removing the band...
WHY PAIN AND HURT ARE PART OF YOUR HEALING
There was a time when I was home alone and I had gone out into town for some errands. And as I was getting into a kombi (taxi) two men played major tricks on me and I didn't realize they were stealing my phone. It was only when I had settled and wanted to pull it and...
HOW I DEALT WITH UNFAMILIAR PAIN
It can't be described in words yet here I am typing this blog post. Heartbreak is one thing we all have experienced, whether it's losing a loved one to death or just going your separate ways with someone you thought you would build forever with. Of course the pain...
How being cheated on changes you internally
Dealing with the internal mental things that go on with finding out you were cheated on. Self doubt, low self esteem, bargaining etc Who am I kidding, we all have plenty stories about this. We could write books and start podcasts about these experiences. The one thing...
Feeling Powerful Cause You Are Straight?
This post is inspired by Pose season 3. This show is excellent, it really tells the stories of the LGBTQIA+ community so well. There are struggles I already knew but watching the show opened my eyes to the amount of privilege that I live in. Simple things like if I...
I am Not Cut Out For Motherhood
I was watching The Bold Type season 4 episode 14 when I got the urge to write on this. Let me give you a little background so you understand how this all began. Sutton had just gotten married to her lover, Richard, a wedding that we had all been waiting for. A few...
Do You Really Know Your Worth?
The saying, ‘Know your worth,’ is thrown around a lot on the internet these days. Nine times out of ten this statement is used in reference to a relationship that has gone sour. Someone cheats and the definition of knowing your worth is walking away from the...
Why you need to learn and understand HIV/AIDS
I wrote this piece titled I am sorry in the year 2015 and when I read it today, I see where I was coming from but there are parts of this blog post that show my ignorance in the matter. Whilst I took the time to get in the shoes of the person who was born HIV...
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