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Why walking away is better than being the crazy girlfriend

by uBu | 22/02/2022 | Relationships | 0 Comments

Once upon a time, I was told a story about my grandmother. She found out that my grandfather was cheating with a young fine ting and she was not amused at all. She set out to the village where this girl stayed or did she lure her into coming to her? I can’t quite...

Every relationship comes with a lesson, here is mine.

by uBu | 08/02/2022 | Relationships | 0 Comments

There is that one saying we all love throwing around when someone we love has walked out of our lives, and it goes, ‘we meet people for a reason or a season.’ Such a comforting saying. We then follow it up with some heartfelt I love you’s in the hope that someone will...

Are marriages meant to be forever or do we need reviews?

by uBu | 08/02/2022 | Relationships | 0 Comments

Let me start off by saying I am a very big fan of true crime documentaries and I will watch these at any point of the day if boredom strikes. I really enjoy them but I have to say on most days I am never ready for the shocking bits that each story comes with. Today I...

Why I see a cheat in every man.

by uBu | 25/01/2022 | Relationships | 0 Comments

“There are good men out there.” A statement that women often bring up during the cheating men conversation. I am not saying that it is untrue, I am saying being a good person has nothing to do with cheating. Good people cheat too. And this is the one reason why in my...

You need to look out for red flags in friendships

by uBu | 11/01/2022 | Relationships | 1 Comment

When I hear the phrase, 'life is unfair,' the positive human being that lives inside of me wants to counter that with some positive energy. 9/10 it feels like I am covering up and refusing to learn the lesson that is being presented to me. I never imagined that I...

TRUTH IS GRIEF DOESNT HAVE A TIME STAMP

by uBu | 19/05/2021 | Relationships | 3 Comments

When you fall and get hurt your healing depends on what you do to help the wound to heal. You have to clean it, dress and band aid it, sometimes you are required to do this twice or thrice a week. In the beginning you will dread each change because removing the band...

WHY PAIN AND HURT ARE PART OF YOUR HEALING

by uBu | 12/05/2021 | Relationships | 2 Comments

There was a time when I was home alone and I had gone out into town for some errands. And as I was getting into a kombi (taxi) two men played major tricks on me and I didn't realize they were stealing my phone. It was only when I had settled and wanted to pull it and...

HOW I DEALT WITH UNFAMILIAR PAIN

by uBu | 05/05/2021 | Relationships | 0 Comments

It can't be described in words yet here I am typing this blog post. Heartbreak is one thing we all have experienced, whether it's losing a loved one to death or just going your separate ways with someone you thought you would build forever with. Of course the pain...

How being cheated on changes you internally

by uBu | 28/09/2020 | Relationships | 0 Comments

Dealing with the internal mental things that go on with finding out you were cheated on. Self doubt, low self esteem, bargaining etc Who am I kidding, we all have plenty stories about this. We could write books and start podcasts about these experiences. The one thing...

NEVER HAVE I EVER SENT NUDES TO MY BOSS

Apr 14, 2021

Midnight chats are the reason all this happened. I was talking to my boyfriend whilst lying in bed and our...

Feeling Powerful Cause You Are Straight?

This post is inspired by Pose season 3. This show is excellent, it really tells the stories of the LGBTQIA+ community so well. There are struggles I already knew but watching the show opened my eyes to the amount of privilege that I live in. Simple things like if I...

I am Not Cut Out For Motherhood

I was watching The Bold Type season 4 episode 14 when I got the urge to write on this. Let me give you a little background so you understand how this all began. Sutton had just gotten married to her lover, Richard, a wedding that we had all been waiting for. A few...

Do You Really Know Your Worth?

The saying, ‘Know your worth,’ is thrown around a lot on the internet these days. Nine times out of ten this statement is used in reference to a relationship that has gone sour. Someone cheats and the definition of knowing your worth is walking away from the...

Why you need to learn and understand HIV/AIDS

I wrote this piece titled I am sorry in the year 2015 and when I read it today, I see where I was coming from but there are parts of this blog post that show my ignorance in the matter. Whilst I took the time to get in the shoes of the person who was born HIV...

I ABORTED & IT SAVED MY LIFE

Jul 5, 2021

My period was 4 days late and it was never late. The sore breasts, the puking, the cramps,...

I TERMINATED: LEGALIZE ABORTIONS, IT’S A BASIC HUMAN RIGHT

Jun 9, 2021

I’ve had two abortions all below the age of 18, why you ask? I lacked basic sex education because...

Why men need to be more creative with their nudes.

Mar 3, 2022 | Body Positivity

Let’s talk about nudes. I love taking nudes, they make me happy and have been a part of my self-love journey. The day I stopped taking them for other people, I realized what a great tool they are when it comes to learning how to love your body. A friend of mine does...

Why self-love is important for your weight loss journey

Feb 17, 2022 | Body Positivity

I have struggled to accept my body for a very long time, I am still learning how to love myself but today I am going to talk about the many times that I have tried to change my body using all kinds of methods that did not work. I wish I remembered the year but years...

Why you need to stop projecting your insecurities

Feb 3, 2022 | Body Positivity

I write this blog post representing every plus-size person out there. I am here to remind everyone that the way the next person looks does not define them, their skills, their talent or the things that they deserve in life. It does not determine how one should be...

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Why walking away is better than being the crazy girlfriend

Every relationship comes with a lesson, here is mine.

Are marriages meant to be forever or do we need reviews?

Why I see a cheat in every man.

You need to look out for red flags in friendships

TRUTH IS GRIEF DOESNT HAVE A TIME STAMP

WHY PAIN AND HURT ARE PART OF YOUR HEALING

HOW I DEALT WITH UNFAMILIAR PAIN

How being cheated on changes you internally

NEVER HAVE I EVER SENT NUDES TO MY BOSS

Feeling Powerful Cause You Are Straight?

I am Not Cut Out For Motherhood

Do You Really Know Your Worth?

Why you need to learn and understand HIV/AIDS

I ABORTED & IT SAVED MY LIFE

I TERMINATED: LEGALIZE ABORTIONS, IT’S A BASIC HUMAN RIGHT

Why men need to be more creative with their nudes.

Why self-love is important for your weight loss journey

Why you need to stop projecting your insecurities

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