How To Identify Your Values

by | Feb 3, 2020 | Navigating Adulting | 0 comments

Value: principles or standards of behavior; one’s judgment of what is important in life.

“they internalize their parents’ rules and values”

Values play a big role in our everyday lives, they shape our thoughts, our words, and our decisions. This is why it is important to identify them, make them known and live by them too. It took a long time for me to learn about my top values. You will realize that most of your non-negotiables tie in with your top values. If you don’t already know your values then I will help identify them.


  1. Your peak experiences – think of the times that you were happiest in your life, the times when you felt most fulfilled and proud of yourself. What was going on around you and what were you honoring. When you list what you were honoring you will find that you were honoring your values.    
  2. Your down times – when were you the angriest and what had happened then. Could have been because you disappointed yourself or someone else did, what exactly caused the negative emotions to surface. Take note of those things.
  3. Conduct – outside of the basic human needs, what makes you feel fulfilled. What is important to you? Is it adventure or excitement? Is it being contented?

When you answer all three of the above place them in related groups reason being you may have too many of them and that makes them impossible to act on. So for example, learning, growth and development fall into the same group.

In that group highlight the one that best represents the group. Take for instance in the list I put above development represents the group well.

To cut down the list ask yourself the following questions: which of the listed values in each group are essential to your life? Which of them represents your primary way of living life? Which values support your inner being?

Now you must have your list and you can easily rank them in order of importance. This way you can easily identify your top 3 values.


  1. They connect you to a group of like-minded people.
  2. They help guide our actions.
  3. They help you react in difficult situations.
  4. They help you find your purpose.
  5. They help you make decisions.
  6. They help you to choose the right career.

Thank you for coming to my Ted talk and I hope that I helped you. Please share this blog post to save a life out there. Someone still needs to choose a career and their answer could lie in them knowing their values. *wink wink*

Now that you know your values, have you identified your beliefs? Well, we will talk about that in next week so come through, as a matter of fact subscribe why Dontcha! CIAO!!