Value: principles or standards of behavior; one's judgment of what is important in life. "they internalize their parents' rules and values" Values play a big role in our everyday lives, they shape our thoughts, our words, and our decisions. This is why it is important to identify them, make them known and live by them too. It took a long time for me to learn about my top values. You will realize that most of your non-negotiables tie in with...
I have conversations with myself a lot, when I say a lot I mean a lot! I will sit and ask myself a question and have a full blown conversation with both of me. When I was younger I would sit in front of the mirror because then, there really is 2 of me. one day my mother walked in on me and she did not understand why I was talking to myself. I will never forget the look on her face that day, she was shook! I am about to encourage you to have...
If a seed is planted on infertile ground, will it grow? I think not. In this case the infertile ground is the comfort zone, and I am sure you know who the seed is. In the past two weeks we have spoken about the danger of staying in your comfort zone and how to get yourself out of the comfort zone. Now that you have managed to pluck yourself out of infertile ground here is what to expect from your newly found fertile ground. YOU REALIZE YOUR...
Gather around my people, it is time to fix the things. Those days of staying busy with a result of low production need to come to an end. Here are things that eat into our time and we barely notice.NOT HAVING A VISUAL TO-DO LIST. Funny story, I just scolded someone for this very point. They got a very good opportunity and almost missed it because they FORGOT! Could never be me! You know why? Because my night routine includes writing my to-do...
Time to leave the dangerous place you were living in. Well to be fair, I am on this journey with you. Maybe we should start a support group and keep each other in check. Anybody? Ok, if you are with me leave a comment below, we could work on something. When I looked at this topic I pictured myself sitting in a cage, but everything I needed was in there. I was happy in my cage until I started seeing things outside my cage that I thought would be...
Let’s agree that the most frustrating being you can be in the world is smart but unsuccessful. More-so because if you are smart it’s generally believed that you are destined to be a success. You are probably more creative than many others. Yet the reality on the ground shows hordes of dudes and chicks who work hard at drafting the best ideas or getting the best education only to live average or below it. If you are a smart person who is not...
https://youtu.be/uhfbGOtlYx4 We have done away with 8 months in this year and listen here if you haven't been happy through and through it's time to change it! Especially if it is because you have been holding back. I get it, it's hard to express yourself because the people are always ready to judge you. But, why are we giving them so much power? They sit there to judge so as to hide their own insecurities and they do if well cause they are...
Life is, weirdly, full of contradictions. Growing up we all wanted to matter. We all wanted to be someone but life happened and how many of us are actually living our dreams? Most of us have found a way to make the most of what life handed us (make our lemonade out of lemons cliché). It is what it is. In doing so, however, most of us have lost our self-esteem. Each blow life hits us with kind of ends up taking a bit of us with it and before we...
WHERE IS MY FREEDOM? Freedom is in accepting yourself for who you are and selecting the social norms of the collective that you truly agree with without compromising your own. It is a tragedy when I see young people that for instance wanted to go a certain career path choose a different one because of what their parents and society idolized or rewarded. It is even sadder to see limited or no choice of religion. Church-going being imposed or...
We are born into conformity, and a reasonable level of conformity allows us to understand each other. For instance, conforming to the same vocabulary creates language. If each person had their own vocabulary no one would understand the other. Thus conformity when applied to certain aspects of life serves. Today, however, I want to talk about the freedom of being yourself, freedom of being me as well. The ability to detach from conformity where...
If you are here and expecting a reason out of the moon, nope it's straight out of reality. Most times we don't even realize its happening. It took a wake up call for me to realize my stagnation was not anyone else's fault but mine! I closed the door to my growth and blamed the world, I bet you are too. YOU COMPARE YOURSELF TO PEOPLE IN YOUR FIELD. Comparison, we need to nip it in the bud with immediate effect. What comparison does is it tells...
'This day sucks already, can it end?' Many of us have these days and while I get that life happens, does it happen all week long. Or for an entire month or are we just our here putting it on life when we can change a thing or two. Yes, I am here to tell you why most of your days SUCK! YOU WAKE UP WITH ENOUGH TIME TO MAKE IT OUT THE DOOR TO MAKE IT IN TIME FOR THE TIME. You are guilty huh, I see it in your eyes! Work starts at 8 and you...
Nothing hurts more than doing something for someone out of love and them simply not appreciating it. I went through it this very week. Story time! So, this week was a week of so much research for me. And in the midst of researching I found this amazing app used to edit videos, needed it because I am coming to YouTube SOON. I decided to try it out and I edited a friend's video. I loved the outcome and out of excitement I decided to show her....
We are the chosen generation,right? I mean can we surely sing and shout it out loud that we are chosen. We have it good and can totally conquer. I guess we sorta, kinda are but most of the time we are in limbo. You may be thinking, 'Bu, I'm as stable as a horse,' well then let's see.. We were raised by the older generation yet we are the new generation. We have old generation customs and beliefs succesfully installed in us yet the new...
I have not made it out of my 20's yet and quite frankly half the time I am choked up, curled up into a ball and contemplating life. Nobody ever warned us about this adulting thing, they painted a picture of financial freedom and so much more. What is freedom when the bills stay piling and the responsibilities get real? With each speed hump I have learnt something though, I am sure more is to come as I continue to fight these 20's blues. STAY IN...
I have met verbally abusive people in my life. I have taken in so much there is a time I hated the idea of speaking to another human being. And the problem is I kept all those words and nurtured them, I held onto them and made them a part of them. I allowed them to mould me and that is the worst thing I could have ever done to myself. I then had the job of unattaching myself from these evil words and yielding positive thoughts. So let's talk...
Candle in front of many defocused candle flames creating a spiritual atmosphere and in remembrance of loved ones Many of us have lost someone very close to us, if not everyone. That experience is a very difficult one to get past and deal with. We get up and continue with life because what choice do we have, but our minds never really stop going back to memories built with that person. Simple things could trigger thoughts about them, someone...
Value: principles or standards of behavior; one's judgment of what is important in life. "they internalize their parents' rules and values" Values play a big role in our everyday lives, they shape our thoughts, our words, and our decisions. This is why it is important...
I have conversations with myself a lot, when I say a lot I mean a lot! I will sit and ask myself a question and have a full blown conversation with both of me. When I was younger I would sit in front of the mirror because then, there really is 2 of me. one day my...
If a seed is planted on infertile ground, will it grow? I think not. In this case the infertile ground is the comfort zone, and I am sure you know who the seed is. In the past two weeks we have spoken about the danger of staying in your comfort zone and how to get...
Gather around my people, it is time to fix the things. Those days of staying busy with a result of low production need to come to an end. Here are things that eat into our time and we barely notice.NOT HAVING A VISUAL TO-DO LIST. Funny story, I just scolded someone...
Time to leave the dangerous place you were living in. Well to be fair, I am on this journey with you. Maybe we should start a support group and keep each other in check. Anybody? Ok, if you are with me leave a comment below, we could work on something. When I looked...
Let’s agree that the most frustrating being you can be in the world is smart but unsuccessful. More-so because if you are smart it’s generally believed that you are destined to be a success. You are probably more creative than many others. Yet the reality on the...
https://youtu.be/uhfbGOtlYx4 We have done away with 8 months in this year and listen here if you haven't been happy through and through it's time to change it! Especially if it is because you have been holding back. I get it, it's hard to express yourself because the...