It was deeper than that. It was more about how sexual I was allowed to be as a woman. A lady does not initiate sex, she also does not tell a man how to please her because then that makes her a whore and that is never good.

Love, Sex & Relationships

Why I See A Cheat In Every Man

Why I See A Cheat In Every Man

“There are good men out there.” A statement that women often bring up during the cheating men conversation. I am not saying that it is untrue, I am saying being a good person has nothing to do with cheating. Good people cheat too. And this is the one reason why in my...

Sex And Orgasms, A Woman’s First Love

Sex And Orgasms, A Woman’s First Love

'Act like a lady.' This is something I am sure many girls have been told, we are raised to act a certain way so that we can be perfect candidates for the wife role. I was once told to 'laugh like a lady,' and I was not sure if I was meant to kiki instead of just...

You Need To Look Out For Red Flags In Friendships

You Need To Look Out For Red Flags In Friendships

When I hear the phrase, 'life is unfair,' the positive human being that lives inside of me wants to counter that with some positive energy. 9/10 it feels like I am covering up and refusing to learn the lesson that is being presented to me. I never imagined that I...

There is truth in the saying, ‘If someone shows you who they are, believe them.’ People do not change because you have told them to or expressed your pain so the only other option you have is to separate yourself from them.

There is truth in the saying, ‘If someone shows you who they are, believe them.’ People do not change because you have told them to or expressed your pain so the only other option you have is to separate yourself from them.

Mental Health, Health & Wellness

How An Abortion  Made Me Question Motherhood

How An Abortion Made Me Question Motherhood

I am a big fan of The Bold Type and I am sad that it will not be back for another season. I remain grateful that we got the 5 seasons, but this post is inspired by S4 E14 of the show. Allow me to paint the picture for you. Sutton had just gotten married to her lover,...

Why Self-love is Important For Your Weight Loss Journey

Why Self-love is Important For Your Weight Loss Journey

I have struggled to accept my body for a very long time, I am still learning how to love myself. I have been plus-size for most of my life and unfortunately for me, the world either thinks I am obese or on the verge of death. I have gone through seasons of trying to...

Why You Need To Learn And Understand HIV/AIDS

Why You Need To Learn And Understand HIV/AIDS

I wrote this piece titled I am sorry in the year 2015 and when I read it today, I see where I was coming from but there are parts of this blog post that show my ignorance in the matter. Whilst I took the time to get in the shoes of the person who was born HIV...

Why You Need To Stop Projecting Your Insecurities

Why You Need To Stop Projecting Your Insecurities

I write this blog post representing every plus-size person out there. I am here to remind everyone that the way the next person looks does not define them, their skills, their talent or the things that they deserve in life. It does not determine how one should be...

What I Had Forgotten About Depression And Anxiety

What I Had Forgotten About Depression And Anxiety

This is another new category and what I basically do here is call myself out on the bullshit I believed in. I have written pieces that are very judgemental and lack understanding of what life really is. The first one on the list is the one title H-town vs World. If...

The Truth About Music And How I Fuels Body Shaming

The Truth About Music And How I Fuels Body Shaming

This morning I sat down to download a couple of Zim songs that I missed, and as I kept going more songs popped up that I had not even thought of. So I went ahead and downloaded those too cause they brought back really good memories. I put together a playlist and I was...

 Navigating Adulting

Do You Really Know Your Worth?

Do You Really Know Your Worth?

The saying, ‘Know your worth,’ is thrown around a lot on the internet these days. Nine times out of ten this statement is used in reference to a relationship that has gone sour. Someone cheats and the definition of knowing your worth is walking away from the...

Why You Should Look At Each Year With A Positive Eye

Why You Should Look At Each Year With A Positive Eye

Happy new year to you my darlings! Guess who has another opportunity to chase their dreams and make them happen, yep, you and I. I am very excited for the year but I do want to talk about something we often overlook and has us grading our years as uneventful. Most...

The Reason Why You Need To Stop Making Promises

The Reason Why You Need To Stop Making Promises

Years ago I got the chance to visit a childrens home (I hate calling them orphanages, story for another day) with my then church choir. It was such a trip for me because I too was orphaned at seven years old. I wanted to hug all of them and let them know that they...

Read This If You Are Scared

Read This If You Are Scared

Cause I am. I know for some it seems like I have everything on lock but I am not going to lie, I crumble too. I am scared of what the future holds, are the decisions I am making now going to have a positive effect in the future. I often wonder if there is something I...

Read This If You Want Everything To Stop

Read This If You Want Everything To Stop

You are steady questioning everything happening around you, questioning your worth, questioning if you will ever get to the top. When you look around you, nothing makes sense. You feel as though you are going in circles, working your ass off with no results. Yeah, I...

For The Culture

7 Reasons Why Living in a Foreign Country is Hard

7 Reasons Why Living in a Foreign Country is Hard

Written by Wonani Mwanza Living abroad sounds exciting. It is exciting. I’m Zambian and my home is Zambia. When an opportunity came for me to leave Zambia, I grabbed it with both hands. I currently live in Malaysia and I have been here for the last three years. When...

Impact Factor: Where Can I Make A Difference?

Impact Factor: Where Can I Make A Difference?

Written by David L. Tabb On paper, my life in America seemed outstanding.  In 2014, I was a tenured associate professor at one of the best medical schools in the nation, living in a big house on the hill; I was a paragon of privilege.  Inside, though, I was crumbling....

Life As A Foreigner in South Africa.

Life As A Foreigner in South Africa.

Written by Anesu Nyakubaya-Nhevera I remember the day I got to the Beitbridge border post. As night fell I could see the beauty of the lights across the border, in Musina. My Canaan, right there. To this day I can never put the feeling I had into words. Some can say I...

What It Really Means To Live Abroad.

What It Really Means To Live Abroad.

Written by Shereen Asafo-Adjei One day in class, a guy I thought was insanely beautiful asked me if I wanted to give him “head.” At the time of my life, I was scared to ask questions because I didn’t want to be branded as a FOB (fresh off the boat- someone who just...

The Story of Cold Winters, Racism and Life Changes.

The Story of Cold Winters, Racism and Life Changes.

Written by Rumbidzai It was mid-summer in Zimbabwe when my uprooting happened. I knew that this was coming, but my 10-year-old mind had not fully grasped what it meant for the future. I didn’t know I was facing one of the biggest changes in my life. I had just turned...

NdiliQhawe:  Our Vaginas Still Need New Names

NdiliQhawe: Our Vaginas Still Need New Names

Written by Zilanie Tamara Gondwe Taboo. Uttering the word vagina is taboo in my country. Taboo things and practices are usually proscribed to women. The Oxford Dictionary defines taboo as: 1. A social or religious custom prohibiting or restricting a particular...

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