'He has nobody else in his life, he really needs someone.' 'She said she has never known real love, she yearns for it.' How many times have you fallen in love with the story behind the person and not the person? Your heart throbs and you want to be the person who fixes their problem/s. First of all, you are not the fixer! Secondly, you are setting yourself up for a disaster. So you are getting with this person because you feel sorry for them...
Love is a beautiful thing, when you get it! How many of us can testify and say that we have been given and given genuine love? I am not talking about the love your mother and father gave you. I am talking the love that the bae you plastered on the gram gave you. I seen hands go down. I am here to help you real quick. HE LOOKS AT YOU LIKE HE DOESN'T BELIEVE YOU EXIST. 'I can not believe you are my woman, I never thought I would find a woman like...
Touch, a language of its own. It says what words won't and the sensation it brings plays back in our minds, over and over again. The look in the next person's eyes tells you who they are in your life, it sparks a fire in your heart. It's the little things, right? It's the little things that keep love alive. Even in the rough times, these memories remind you why you in that space. Relationships are hard work, whether thy partner stays next door...
"Long distance relationships are the GHETTO!" Yes, yes they are and for someone who agrees with this notion, I have been in one too many. If we really look at it closely, you don't really plan on getting into a long distance relationship, life just happens most times. Your heart can't really be stopped, sigh. We thank God for technology, it allows you to still see this person you are so in love with. Talk to them regularly and have what is a...
Who hasn't been cheated on? I know I have, plenty of times too! Here is what I discovered as I worked on this blog post(the idea came when I bumped into this thread on Reddit), when you hear other peoples stories you become grateful for yours because they don't seem that bad. No, seriously, scroll and see! IS he mine or ours? ON vacation? Really? The nerve to call on cancer... She mapped out a plan! Visuals as proof. Surprise! Ooooooh snap! We...
Cheating, abuse, and threats are top of the list reasons to pack your bags and run. Then we have those times when we stay but we not really there anymore. And that is what I will be addressing today because we need to be real with ourselves. I mean, YOLO right!? YOU NEED TO FIND A REASON OR REASONS TO STAY. Your family really likes your partner, its important to you so if they like him/her then you can definitely stick around. It will get...
Fear plays such a big role in our lives sometimes we don't even realize it. We have all had a season of, "I am single and happy, " yes we have. We have defended our being single in so many different ways but I think sometimes we are just afraid. Afraid because we have tried so many times and it just never worked out. If I am here typing a lie, please sign out immediately! If you're still here, let's get into the few reasons I picked up. You are...
"What's good you stupid ass fag, move, this is straight space!" "You are demon possessed, you need cleansing!" Such statements are the reason why most people are not upfront about their sexuality. Humanity is top 2 cruel and it ain't number 2. One feels unsafe even in places where they should. School becomes unbearable, going out is a non starter because it comes with the anxiety of dealing with unnecessary name calling. Why people can not...
'Its either you are heterosexual or homosexual, period!' That ladies and gentleman is the sound of the old me who turned a blind eye on reality. My blind eye could have possibly won me a black eye after offending someone by simply addressing them wrong. Asking the next person's sexuality is definitely "top 2 questions that NEED to be asked!" I assure you after reading this you will understand why I am saying this. HETEROSEXUAL - This is for...
You read that title and thought, what? Yes I know even I think it is crazy but apparently there are things we do that ticks guys off and gets us CANCELLED! I was shook cause it is the smallest of things, so let me educate thee! 'I NEED A FAVOR' : That statement sets them OFF. I think it has something to do with feeling used and abused a little too early. In short, do not do it! "SO, WHAT ARE WE?' : Forward much baby girl? Desperate much? In...
I have always thought I was a guru at this womaning thing, turns out I am just average. I took some time out to talk to a few gentleman, I learnt. So it would be fair if I shared, lets! KEEP THE LOOK NATURAL: Yes we look fabulous in the wigs and the makeup, but they prefer us looking natural. The nappy hair and the freckles. The patched up skin, the scars all of it. The reason they gave was that they are very visual beings therefore what they...
Travel has to be one of the things that needs to be on everyone’s list. Honestly, we would have failed ourselves if we allow lives to come to an end without seeing the world. It was made to be seen, go out there and see it! Here is the thing about travelling; it opens...
There are days I wish I was an alpha female.. God knows I would lean on myself more than other people. I would walk the streets, look people in the eye and never be afraid to ask them why they are looking. I would call people out on their bullshit, out loud, right...
I sat down one day and asked myself; what is a date? What is the purpose is of a date? This is time spent together to get to know each, to have a conversation and a laugh. My dumbass landed on food because all my dates revolve around food. Do not get it twisted, I...
‘Every time I try to leave Something keeps pullin' me back, me back Telling me I need you in my life Every time I try to go Somethin' keeps tellin' me that, me that Everything goin' be alright Every time I try to leave Something keeps pullin' me back, me back Telling...
Confirm the honeymoon phase is the best of it all? Listen, the butterflies and the rush are to die for. Statements like, ‘things have changed,’ and ‘you have changed,’ start to fly around and this is the stage where the bond either breaks or gets stronger. Most times,...
I keep seeing people on twitter talking about how they hate the talking stage, listen I get that it is a tiring process. And because we keep getting in and out of relationships it starts to feel really annoying. Telling someone your favorite color when you told...
‘Love is beautiful!’ We say this a lot, when we experience it or when we think we are experiencing it. When we see it in other people and when we yearn for it. But why doesn’t it last for some us, where do we go wrong? One of the reasons why we fall out with people is...
Being in the same room with someone whilst you work away does not make for quality time. That is just existing in the same room, sharing oxygen and nothing else. We are talking about phones off, the world shut out, undivided attention over here. That is what your...