It was deeper than that. It was more about how sexual I was allowed to be as a woman. A lady does not initiate sex, she also does not tell a man how to please her because then that makes her a whore and that is never good.
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Love, Sex & Relationships
Why Pain And Hurt Are Part Of Your Healing
There was a time when I was home alone and I had gone out into town for some errands. And as I was getting into a kombi (taxi) two men played major tricks on me and I didn't realize they were stealing my phone. It was only when I had settled and wanted to pull it and...
How I Dealt With Unfamiliar Pain
It can't be described in words yet here I am typing this blog post. Heartbreak is one thing we all have experienced, whether it's losing a loved one to death or just going your separate ways with someone you thought you would build forever with. Of course the pain...
Are You Ready To Find A Life Partner?
Sbwl sbwl! Tis’ the season to sbwl (this is short for ‘sabaweli’ which means ‘craving’) a life partner seeing as valentines is around the corner. Speaking of, what you are you doing for valentines day? As a little girl, I thought love was so easy to find, I blame the...
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There is truth in the saying, ‘If someone shows you who they are, believe them.’ People do not change because you have told them to or expressed your pain so the only other option you have is to separate yourself from them.
There is truth in the saying, ‘If someone shows you who they are, believe them.’ People do not change because you have told them to or expressed your pain so the only other option you have is to separate yourself from them.
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Mental Health, Health & Wellness
You Need To Stop Replacing Body Shaming With Your Argument
Alright my people, gather around, please. This is going to be a really short one, maybe not, but I will try. I want to talk to the people who choose to argue with people's bodies and not the actual argument. On countless occasions, I have witnessed twars turn into...
Having An Abortion Saved My Life, This Is How
Written by Amanda Tayte-Tait Marufu My period was 4 days late and it was never late. The sore breasts, the puking, the cramps, although these were all symptoms I faced whenever I was on my period anyway. Not to mention the fatigue these past few days. I checked my...
Legalize Abortions, It’s A Basic Human Right
Written by A Brave Woman I’ve had two abortions all below the age of 18, why you ask? I lacked basic sex education because it's quite taboo to educate young people about sex in Malawi. The first time I got pregnant it took me about five weeks to realize I was...
A King Would Been Born Today, But I Terminated
Written by A woman in pain Our baby would have been born today, do you know that? Our progeny, bone of my bones Our pleasurable mistake but the universe’s manifestation of my deepest desires I am pregnant, three little words with so much weight so much meaning Words...
The Truth Is Grief Doesn’t Have A Time Stamp
When you fall and get hurt your healing depends on what you do to help the wound to heal. You have to clean it, dress and band aid it, sometimes you are required to do this twice or thrice a week. In the beginning you will dread each change because removing the band...
Why It Is Important To Manifest The Work Environment You Want
Do you know how many times I have read a post that reads ‘your workmates are not your friends!’ This seems to be the anthem at many workplaces, and for whatever reason, the image in my head is of a cold place. I see a place that is so quiet you can hear a pin drop...
Navigating Adulting
Read This If You Are Willing To Wait For Love
February was designated the month of love and it's always pretty hectic for many. For some it reminds them how single they are, and that realization may turn into thoughts such as, 'I am unwanted.' I hope those thoughts disappear as fast as they came around! Some have...
Why You Need To Take Action
Honey-child move! How rude of me, I did not greet you, how are you? How is January treating you? I am doing alright but today I want to talk about practising less of the talking and actually DOING! We all struggle with this part of life, don’t we? The part where we...
Do You Know How To Curb Procrastination And Impulse Buying
Cultivating healthy habits and staying disciplined, chile that is the one thing that you continue to learn every single day. Today I would like to preach to my fellow impulse buyers, we need to heal from this deadly disease and we need to do it now! My biggest...
How I Ran Businesses Into The Ground
Listen I have started so many businesses and they have failed! I can blame the economy and the government, I really can, but the truth is I was the problem. When I thought of an idea, my imagination played tricks on me so hard because it took me as far as seeing...
How I am Managing My Money In 2021
I remember when I was younger and all I ever wished for was to grow up and make my own money. I dreamt of buying a car and a house, I would have all the food I liked and ate it the way I wished because damn it, it is my food! Then adulthood came and shook me to my...
Why You Need To Network & Create Relationships
‘I got this, I do not need anyone else to help.’ Well, do you really got it though? I see many people with this attitude and I do not judge them because once upon a time I was them. That stemmed mostly from childhood trauma, I always felt like when I asked for...
For The Culture
My Top African Reads
Written by Mable Barbara Amuron Anyone who knows me knows of my love for the written word. This past decade has seen the explosion of African literature which has been awesome for readers, such as myself, hungry for books that speak to the African experience and have...
Places You Have To See In Ghana
Written by Sarah Toyin One country among many in Africa you need to visit is Ghana! Ghana is a country I recommend you visit as it is full of rich history, culture, food and more. Independence Square From Pixabay Ghana has become a sought-after holiday...
Zimbabwean Taboos Tied to Culture
Written by Rudo Manyere Zimbabwe is a landlocked African country situated in the south of Africa. It has a population of roughly 14 million people, 16 languages, and about 7 religions. Although Christianity is the main religion and was introduced by the Portuguese in...
3 Books That Will Leave You Questioning Society
Written by Laker Fiona 1. Things Fall Apart Every time I meet an African who has not read this book, I honestly judge them. Things Fall Apart by Chinua Achebe was one of my earliest reads growing up. I love this book because of its writing style and how it reflects...
Underrated Places in Kenya You Should See
Written by Julie Olum As tourism in African countries goes, Kenya has done alright for itself over the decades, of course being a well-known wildlife/safari destination, having beautiful beaches with great weather virtually all year, and even being home to fascinating...
Shocking Things That Are Considered Taboo in Ghana
Written by Shereen Let me start by saying that Ghanaians are a group of people who love to follow protocol. We believe things are set in place for a reason and the older those things are the more we must cling to them because you know, tradition. To non-Ghanaians,...