Somewhere out there someone has labeled you toxic, ever thought about it? To be fair we have all been toxic in one way or another as we tried to figure ourselves out. We grew up in homes were toxicity ruled, we didn't know what it was so we just carried it along with us. Toxic ways became our rules and part of our values. It scares me to think that we have a cycle that might not completely break. Toxicity is passed from one generation to...
We have a guest blog today! Pretty awesome, isn't it? The reason why I brought someone else to come and speak on all things fitness is that I do not know enough to share for a self-care challenge. So in conversation today we have Yeu of Mad Fitness. WHAT IS FITNESS? Physical fitness refers to the ability of your body systems to work together efficiently to allow you to be healthy and perform activities of daily living. Being efficient...
Hello, good morning to you and yours. It is 8 am and this post has gone up and I need you to think back for a minute, from the time you woke up till now have you taken time to yourself. How did you prepare yourself for the world before stepping into it? Answers may be dropped in the comment section, remember there are no wrong answers because obviously, the self-care routine is yours. I used to be one of those people who just got into the day...
Written by Carol I'm not sure what possessed me to speak on this subject cause I'm sure I struggle just as much as the next person when it comes to eating healthy. It's like laundry, we all want to do it but when it comes to doing it the voices in your head whisper "But do we have to?". Anyway, I'm gonna give it my best shot and talk about my self-care routine for healthy eating. Ok calling it a routine is a stretch, I just have a set of 5...
As we prepare for the EXPRESSIONS OF SELF-CARE BLOGGING CHALLENGE (get the PDF on the calendar page), I just thought this would be a great starting point. There is very little you can achieve if your words do not match your dreams or actions. What we do not realize is how powerful our words are, words lead you to the place you belong. If you do not believe in your words then surely your actions mean nothing, it simply is an act. I had a season...
It was a Thursday night when I lay in bed and couldn’t get myself to sleep. I tossed and turned and decided to grab my phone and google why we suffer from insomnia. I found myself reading one article after the other, I was really amazed by what I came across. Most times we do not know why we fail to sleep, we brush it off and get into bad habits just to try to get ourselves to sleep. Some of us cannot sleep without smoking a blunt or two, some...
Ever sat back to think when you started getting anxiety? I mean, I am sure when you were younger you did not know that it was anxiety. I realized mine started when I was in primary school, a simple thing like a test would have me in a state. I would start hearing my uncle's voice in my head scolding me for not getting enough the marks. If you know what I am talking about, share your story in the comment section. Family gatherings gave me...
Written by Carol One of the things you have to do when navigating the murky waters of finding out who you are is understanding that there's a difference between your values, beliefs, and rules. While the three are different from each other, they are also very much related and come together to form you. They kinda sit on top of each other with values forming the base of the structure, beliefs sitting on top of them and rules at the top of the...
Written by McPotar QUICK TIP: If you are lazy to read, scroll to the bottom of this blog post and watch the youtube video instead! Inthose days I also read “Think and Grow Rich” and “The Science of Getting Rich”among many other volumes that spoke on the same subject. However, as with any motivational material I lost the drive after weeks of attempting what the books claimed was true but still finding myself in no better position than before....
I love affirmations, I never used to affirm myself. On person put me on the drug and I have not been able to stop myself ever since then. Did I doubt that they work in the beginning, absolutely, and when I had doubt they did nothing for me. Affirmations are the equivalent of speaking things into existence for yourself. I found myself becoming more grateful, loving myself more and believing in myself way more. Negative thoughts start to fade,...
Truth #1: We Have Velcro In Our Brains. If you tend to lean towards anxiety, fear and pessimism about your life and the world, you are not alone. Humans have evolved to fundamentally focus on what can go wrong around us, seeking potential threats to our very existence. Rick Hanson puts it perfectly in his book, Hardwiring Happiness, by equating our tendency towards pessimism as having: “Velcro for the bad and Teflon for the...
This blog is inspired by the current affair brought to you by Olinda, Tytan & the other woman. So turns out Tytan has cheated AGAIN on his wife who married him, as Twitter says, Olinda. Now we have always known Olinda to take her L's publicly, every single time. She does this with every single L, she goes live and are out all the details. I stopped watching those after the second or third video because quite frankly, it's exhausting to...
At this point, I’m pretty sure everyone has heard of the term being thrown around and mentioned in articles and conversations. Self-care always gets termed with self-love because…hello, you only care if you love. So that’s what we are going to talk about here. Self-care is about recognizing that one is running low emotionally, physically, financially and spiritually; and taking necessary measures to replenish. Practicing self-care isn’t the...
Our parents know provision to be love. So for any time you yell, 'you never loved me anyway!' they respond, 'I clothed you, I put you in school, I fed you if that isn't love then that's that!' I know you have been here, especially if you are an African child. In African homes talking about your emotions means you are weak. A 'strong' person feels from within and keeps a smile on their face. Tears are for the weak too. Our parents have a goal to...
Wow! I played myself. 100% played myself! I walked into a trigger and had told myself I would never, lesson one trust your instincts. I watched surviving R Kelly, for those of you who are new to my blog I was abused as a child. I talk about it more in this blog post, you may read about it if you wish. So here I was thinking I was strong enough to get through it and not feel too much. I am the clown in this situation. Episode one, R Kelly and...
Growing up plus size was so hard for me, my body blew up when I went to boarding school and from then I could not bounce back to my flat tummy. Yes I once had those believe it or not. My mother would keep saying, 'It's baby fat, it will wear off,' every time someone threw a comment at me. I was in high school and she said it was baby fat. I bought into the dream she sold before high school became stressful and all I could turn to was food. I...
I just imagined myself trying to stand on one leg with my other foot touching my knee and toppling over. This is how I feel most of our balance is, we are living in a world where everything is moving a little too fast. We don't realize it because it is our norm, even...
Self-love is very hard to practice and I will tell you why. The world we live in has way too many unrealistic rules. We are expected to be ‘acceptable’ human beings and the definition of acceptable wavers with each community. None of the rules say just be yourself!...
Before we go far I want to make something clear, I noticed that a lot of people confuse being self-aware and being self-conscious. These are two very different things. Being self-aware is being conscious of your character and feelings whilst being self-conscious is...
Hey there darling, welcome to 2021! I am pumped that you made it into this year, and I hope we will have a wholesome year. 2020 was a hard long year and by the time we hit year-end a lot of us were extremely drained, our mental health was tested greatly last year and...
Remember last week when I talked about my fight with anxiety, well I can only imagine that many more are going through it but for different reasons of course. We may not be conscious about it but every day when we wake we are in dread because so much has changed and...
Greetings from one people-pleaser to another, welcome to my journey to undo the damage I have done in the past. Dare I say that was the best decision I have ever made for myself . The journey still goes on, I am constantly reminding myself not to fall into the trap....
We called this year 20plenty and it came jam packed with plenty surprises. I, just like you, was never prepared for some of the things that I experienced this year, good or bad. Years ago I would have found myself feeling cursed but this year I think I have learnt to...
Why are you afraid of your power? Someone once said to me we are not afraid to fail, we are afraid to succeed. I really thought they were crazy for saying that, it made no sense to me. It was only years later, when my cocoon was about break open when I realized how...