It was deeper than that. It was more about how sexual I was allowed to be as a woman. A lady does not initiate sex, she also does not tell a man how to please her because then that makes her a whore and that is never good.
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Love, Sex & Relationships
Sharing The Same Blood Doesn’t Make You Family
I was having a conversation with my brother the other day and he said to me, ‘we are all family, we need to check on each other and love each other.’ This coming from a person who years ago really minded his alcohol more than the people around him, I felt the growth...
How Being Cheated On Changes You Internally
Dealing with the internal mental things that go on with finding out you were cheated on. Self doubt, low self esteem, bargaining etc Who am I kidding, we all have plenty stories about this. We could write books and start podcasts about these experiences. The one thing...
How To Make Friends As An Adult
Do we really need friends? It's an important question and I find myself thinking about it more than I should actually. It feels silly to want friends as an adult, let alone to go out looking for friends, right? I agree but I don't. A social life is important, having...
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There is truth in the saying, ‘If someone shows you who they are, believe them.’ People do not change because you have told them to or expressed your pain so the only other option you have is to separate yourself from them.
There is truth in the saying, ‘If someone shows you who they are, believe them.’ People do not change because you have told them to or expressed your pain so the only other option you have is to separate yourself from them.
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Mental Health, Health & Wellness
How To Manifest The Friends You Want
Let’s be friends! Seriously, if you think we would vibe, you know where to find me. Let's get to talking. Today’s blog post is dedicated to those who do not believe in creating friendships. This may be a trauma response to something that may have happened in the past,...
Why You Need To Show Your God Gratitude
What are you grateful for today? I probably sound like a broken record to most of my regular readers because I have been saying GET A GRATITUDE JOURNAL! I hope you heard me today and feel extremely pressured to purchase a gratitude journal. However today I want to...
Your Positive Energy Depends On Those Around You
Protect your energy!!! How many times in a day have you either said this statement or read it? I can safely say as a Twitter fan, I read it at least once every day. And maybe I use a lot too, I am guilty as charged. I say it because I need people to understand it, not...
How I Found My Spiritual Alignment
Allow me to take you back to 2018 when I completely lost myself. I fell deep into the hole of trying to play the perfect wife and no I was not married. My life however was focused on playing a part I had no passion for, I was doing what I thought would have me...
The Importance Of Finding Your Spiritual Balance
I just imagined myself trying to stand on one leg with my other foot touching my knee and toppling over. This is how I feel most of our balance is, we are living in a world where everything is moving a little too fast. We don't realize it because it is our norm, even...
Self-loveIs A Never Ending Journey
Self-love is very hard to practice and I will tell you why. The world we live in has way too many unrealistic rules. We are expected to be ‘acceptable’ human beings and the definition of acceptable wavers with each community. None of the rules say just be yourself!...
Navigating Adulting
The Importance Of Continuous Learning
Let me start by asking you, 'what do you do and how often do things evolve in your industry?' (Comment below!) In my industry, it feels like things daily. I mean I have to deal with Facebook and Instagram so you can imagine what that is like, those two platforms drain...
Loving Yourself Enough To Find True Love
Here is something many of you may not know about me, I am easily attracted to broken souls. I often tell myself that I can help them patch up the broken pieces and be whole all over again. I have had friends and boyfriends that were broken and by the time I left those...
How I Found My Happiness And Owned My Mistakes
Happiness, it feels like a myth considering the times that we are in right. We have been tried and tested by this virus for over 300 days now and I have to say, this is not the life I envisioned. It feels so closed up and suffocating, we have always been uncertain...
10 Ways To Live A Better Life
Our lives are very busy, we are always doing this or that. Even in this very lockdown we find ourselves overwhelmed whilst confined in our own homes, who thought? None of us where ever prepared for what 2020 brought. Our homes have become our working spaces, for some...
NdiliQhawe: 16 Years Later, I Found Confidence
Growing up I had a small body and so I suffered from an inferiority complex, I saw myself as insignificant and I doubted my capabilities and failed to realize that dynamites come in small packages, I always thought that others people were better than me and always...
Why Arguing With Evidence Stops Us From Seeing Change
I have done it before and I bet you have done it too. So we can agree that we both need to stop it right? The more I thought about this topic the more I asked myself why as humans we think we can get away with things that have already proved to be problematic. Do you...
For The Culture
3 Books by African Women That Changed My Life For Better
Written by Madeline Wilsonojo I grew up in the UK which meant I didn’t have as much access to African literature as I probably should have. That’s not to say that I didn’t enjoy the books I did read; I was totally in love with Judy Blume and Jacqueline Wilson in my...
Will Our Parents Normalize Setting Boundaries, Honest Conversations & Apologies?
Just yesterday a tweet went out where a father was scolding his oldest son for failing his exams. Scolding is a very light term, he was being an African parent. Angry for having spent so much money on school fees and his son bringing back dismal results. He beat him...
Things You May Not Know About The Ndebele Culture
Good morning! I really want to type, 'kuthi huuuu, ' but this isn't the time to be playing around, right? So as my name suggests, I am Ndebele, in case you don't know my full name it's Nobuhle N Nyoni. We have a problem here because I have no idea what the Ndebele...