My heart skipped a beat when I was typing that topic because what a big topic to write about. It really hits close to home, this is a struggle for many of us. As I thought about this topic I realized that as we grow our parents picked up on our flaws and they used them as weapons. They used them to hurt us, and mostly the physical flaws. When they made it a habit it opened doors for the rest of the family and friends to use it against us. I do...
Finances have got to be the hardest part of adulting. And just cause you work in the finance industry people tend to think you've got it all figured out. WRONG. When financial stress does hit you, it can affect every other part of your life including relationships, diet, social life and just surviving on a day to day basis. There are however a few things you can do to manage your finances and reduce the stress around them. Start with why I...
Are you happy with where you are? Are you comfortable with the skills that you have? It is absolutely ok to be happy with your growth and acquired skills however to be comfortable is a sin in this land. It is important for you to find ways to be better than you were yesterday, you are your own competition. Challenge yourself, believe me, it is the best thing you could ever do for yourself. Here are a few things that I do to improve myself, you...
I went out and got the dictionary meaning for the word rut because we have been using it wrong, well, I had been doing this for a while. So a rut is a habit or pattern of behavior that has become dull and unproductive but is hard to change. I used to wait these out and whine about my life being horrible, it felt horrible and I am sure it looked horrible for those who were watching from the outside. I would write about how things were so dark,...
Written by Wenyu Dutch We are living in unprecedented times. The Corona pandemic has brought about the biggest upheaval in our lifetime. Besides the fear and threat to our lives, our ways of living and doing business have been affected, maybe permanently. We are relying more on digital platforms to stay connected and productive. Here's the thing; data is the new oil. Our data is valuable and the lockdown periods have brought with them an...
Are you one of those people that are always busy, always trying to be on your feet instead of taking time out? This one is for you, it may feel normal for you to always be up and about, fixing this or that but what you are doing is leading your body into physical stress and your mind is bound to get a serious block. Taking timeout means that you become more productive, creative and it builds mental strength. A study proves that time alone...
“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.” – Someone Wise. Remember when we spoke about comfort a few months back? It often leads to a routine life and has you living a very boring life too, you will find yourself hating life. Which of course should not be the case. We are meant to try things out in this world, face our fears and conquer them. Adventure opens up your mind to possibilities, you become more open-minded about so many things....
How many times do you get the question, what do you believe in? (Let's talk about it, drop a comment) I get it a lot but it took me a while to realize I had to start asking it too. I remember when I told myself this one person HAD to be Christian. I encouraged her with bible verses and urged her to pray until one day she posted something on her status that was very anti-Christianity. I thought she was disagreeing with the person, lo and behold...
For years I had been telling myself that I had good skin. It was as if my skin could hear me and decided to show me that I was playing. I did not have a skincare routine in place, I washed my face once a day, used camphor cream and moved. At times I would sleep in makeup, guilty! Then I started to get terrible patches on my skin, it got more oily by the day and I would have outbreaks. It was absolutely terrible, makeup did not help much either,...
Work work work work work work… Did you sing it? You are the one. Work can be super fun but it can also be exhausting. The workload piles up especially in the last and first week of the month. Deadlines will be closing in and people are on your case. After that you are drained and barely want to leave your bed for work, you are unproductive too. if you are not careful work stress can take a toll on your health and your well being. STOP TAKING...
Ever wondered why the color blue is used when someone is feeling low? So I went and googled it and it turns out that blue is used when referring to negative emotions because it is associated with water, ice, coolness, and distance (I guess the ground and the sky?). When you think of all the things mentioned, they do at some point make one blue, an icy place, distance from the one you love, etc. Interesting huh… Well, we all have days when we...
This right here is a very important part of our likeability, you laugh but it is real. Yes, we must give people a chance but please remember that our eyes and noses work before we have a conversation. Nobody wants to stick around for sweaty armpits or smelly feet, it is an absolute turn off! The fact that we experience this means someone out there needs to learn about it so, class is in session. (Class may continue in the comment section)...
The truth is nobody was ready for this and here we are, our lives turned upside down by this little big thing. We can not positively talk it away, neither can we affirm it away. It is just here terrorizing us, day after day and it is taking lives of the ones we love. I have always known how ugly the world is but the past two weeks have made me realize that the ugly is here to stay. No amount of prayer is going to take it away, we remain in a...
I love street markets. Besides the obvious allure of a bargain bonanza, the streets always seem to mirror life in its most unfiltered of forms. I used to frequent the market in Rezende Street, Harare, every Saturday. Dozens upon dozens of vendors would line the streets with their wares on display, each trying any and every trick in the book to get your attention. Some will scream of their low prices, others will shout about their vast...
You and I, we are not the same. We could have the same vision and voice but we could choose to use it differently. This is the beauty that many miss when it comes to using their voice. Many find their voice but choose to use it in the same way they saw someone use it because it worked for them. But is that what you are good at though? Fear tricks us into thinking that our ideas are not good enough and we find ourselves stuck under other...
We cannot do this life thing without our voices. How would we be fulfilled if our voices are muffled? I am always thinking our mothers never got the chance to use their voices, they were told to be quiet and be respectful. To look up to men and follow their lead, or rather stay behind them because the forefront was theirs. Imagine silencing yourself daily, running away from yourself only to bump into yourself. Talk about a recipe for...
I remember when I started blogging and my blog was an actual mess. It had too many names, too many categories, nothing made sense except for the stuff I wrote of course. I look back and I realize that I had something in me that I wanted to say but didn’t know how to let it out. I did not know how to pull it out of me and just let it be. Instead, I kept grabbing other people’s voices. If I saw it working for someone else, I thought it had to...
This is a very touchy subject for me, people often think that with time the reality gets better but it really does not. I lost my parents when I was 7 years old and 21 years later it still hurts, it still stings, I still have questions that are unanswered. So much more happens to a person after losing their parents, so many changes happen around them and to them emotionally. My parents passed on in the same year, one after the other. I was only...
Growing up I had a small body and so I suffered from an inferiority complex, I saw myself as insignificant and I doubted my capabilities and failed to realize that dynamites come in small packages, I always thought that others people were better than me and always...
I have done it before and I bet you have done it too. So we can agree that we both need to stop it right? The more I thought about this topic the more I asked myself why as humans we think we can get away with things that have already proved to be problematic. Do you...
2018: I felt like nothing I did mattered, like any effort I put into my work was useless because nothing worked anyway. I started doubting the talent that I was born with. I saw other people do what I did and I would have a lump of jealousy stuck on my throat for...
I am starting to think I was out to sub myself with most of these topics because, wow! If there is one person who is still learning to celebrate wins, it is this little girl over here. There are times when I start to see my wins as wins after a very long time. Ever...
I hate, wait. I ABSOLUTELY hate being corrected during the people. This is something the people who raised me, the people who taught me, and those that were around me never picked up. I feel attacked and I crumble. Even if your words are real and true that is not what...
We battle with insecurity every other day, I have days when there is a job opening that a friend sends to me and I question why they would think I fit the description. Sometimes I find myself getting angry, it almost feels like an insult. You and I both know that is...
If there is one thing I have spoken about over and over again is toxic people and how one should leave before it is too late. I still stand by it because there is nobody who should come before you, you need to understand that. Here is something I realize I have not...
A horror story for many. If you are reading this right now and your past is the reason you are closed off and isolated I want you to know that you are not alone. I have been there too. I was hurt and my anger did not allow me to do as much as give myself a chance. I...