The word ‘rules’ itself sounds stiff, it sounds like something that will just make your life a living hell. I agree with you but I think we feel that way because growing up the rules we were given were ones we did not like or agree with. Society itself has these ridiculous rules that often get us stuck when trying to make our personal rules. (Remember to drop a comment below.) I have found myself stuck between right (read society's rules)...
First of all I would like to make it clear that I am not a genius. I am just a young girl who learned a few lessons and would like to share them with you. They do say experience is the best teacher, and the fact is they have never lied. Sometimes we go through these things and we curse life and sometimes we blame ourselves but what I have learned is that for everything we go through we learn something that will help us in the future. You will...
Last week we spoke about how to identify your values, if you missed it you can catch upright here. This week we focus on beliefs, these are important because they do drive your behaviors. What you feed the mind translates into actions, which is why I forever say that you need to speak positively. Let me paint a picture for you, right now you are overweight but you have decided to lose weight. But somewhere in life, you told yourself that not...
There comes a time when you need to stop expecting someone to be who you want them to be to you. It doesn't matter how much you want it for as long as they don't want to be that then, it is not coming. I write this with a broken heart and so much pain in me but I want to get past it because I am officially tired. I also write because I hope someone out there will read it and do better. Firstly I need you to realize that life serves us...
Value: principles or standards of behavior; one's judgment of what is important in life. "they internalize their parents' rules and values" Values play a big role in our everyday lives, they shape our thoughts, our words, and our decisions. This is why it is important to identify them, make them known and live by them too. It took a long time for me to learn about my top values. You will realize that most of your non-negotiables tie in with...
I have conversations with myself a lot, when I say a lot I mean a lot! I will sit and ask myself a question and have a full blown conversation with both of me. When I was younger I would sit in front of the mirror because then, there really is 2 of me. one day my mother walked in on me and she did not understand why I was talking to myself. I will never forget the look on her face that day, she was shook! I am about to encourage you to have...
If a seed is planted on infertile ground, will it grow? I think not. In this case the infertile ground is the comfort zone, and I am sure you know who the seed is. In the past two weeks we have spoken about the danger of staying in your comfort zone and how to get yourself out of the comfort zone. Now that you have managed to pluck yourself out of infertile ground here is what to expect from your newly found fertile ground. YOU REALIZE YOUR...
Gather around my people, it is time to fix the things. Those days of staying busy with a result of low production need to come to an end. Here are things that eat into our time and we barely notice.NOT HAVING A VISUAL TO-DO LIST. Funny story, I just scolded someone for this very point. They got a very good opportunity and almost missed it because they FORGOT! Could never be me! You know why? Because my night routine includes writing my to-do...
Time to leave the dangerous place you were living in. Well to be fair, I am on this journey with you. Maybe we should start a support group and keep each other in check. Anybody? Ok, if you are with me leave a comment below, we could work on something. When I looked at this topic I pictured myself sitting in a cage, but everything I needed was in there. I was happy in my cage until I started seeing things outside my cage that I thought would be...
Let’s agree that the most frustrating being you can be in the world is smart but unsuccessful. More-so because if you are smart it’s generally believed that you are destined to be a success. You are probably more creative than many others. Yet the reality on the ground shows hordes of dudes and chicks who work hard at drafting the best ideas or getting the best education only to live average or below it. If you are a smart person who is not...
https://youtu.be/uhfbGOtlYx4 We have done away with 8 months in this year and listen here if you haven't been happy through and through it's time to change it! Especially if it is because you have been holding back. I get it, it's hard to express yourself because the people are always ready to judge you. But, why are we giving them so much power? They sit there to judge so as to hide their own insecurities and they do if well cause they are...
Life is, weirdly, full of contradictions. Growing up we all wanted to matter. We all wanted to be someone but life happened and how many of us are actually living our dreams? Most of us have found a way to make the most of what life handed us (make our lemonade out of lemons cliché). It is what it is. In doing so, however, most of us have lost our self-esteem. Each blow life hits us with kind of ends up taking a bit of us with it and before we...
WHERE IS MY FREEDOM? Freedom is in accepting yourself for who you are and selecting the social norms of the collective that you truly agree with without compromising your own. It is a tragedy when I see young people that for instance wanted to go a certain career path choose a different one because of what their parents and society idolized or rewarded. It is even sadder to see limited or no choice of religion. Church-going being imposed or...
We are born into conformity, and a reasonable level of conformity allows us to understand each other. For instance, conforming to the same vocabulary creates language. If each person had their own vocabulary no one would understand the other. Thus conformity when applied to certain aspects of life serves. Today, however, I want to talk about the freedom of being yourself, freedom of being me as well. The ability to detach from conformity where...
If you are here and expecting a reason out of the moon, nope it's straight out of reality. Most times we don't even realize its happening. It took a wake up call for me to realize my stagnation was not anyone else's fault but mine! I closed the door to my growth and blamed the world, I bet you are too. YOU COMPARE YOURSELF TO PEOPLE IN YOUR FIELD. Comparison, we need to nip it in the bud with immediate effect. What comparison does is it tells...
'This day sucks already, can it end?' Many of us have these days and while I get that life happens, does it happen all week long. Or for an entire month or are we just our here putting it on life when we can change a thing or two. Yes, I am here to tell you why most of your days SUCK! YOU WAKE UP WITH ENOUGH TIME TO MAKE IT OUT THE DOOR TO MAKE IT IN TIME FOR THE TIME. You are guilty huh, I see it in your eyes! Work starts at 8 and you...
Nothing hurts more than doing something for someone out of love and them simply not appreciating it. I went through it this very week. Story time! So, this week was a week of so much research for me. And in the midst of researching I found this amazing app used to edit videos, needed it because I am coming to YouTube SOON. I decided to try it out and I edited a friend's video. I loved the outcome and out of excitement I decided to show her....
Oh if only we could ladies and gentlemen, if only we could. Twitter reminds me every day that this is the hardest thing you could ever ask of human beings, respecting the next person’s opinion. We tweet our opinions, we disagree then next thing you know we are in a...
What is a savage? Savage – a brutal or vicious person. We have many savages on the web, we keep them on our socials for a few laughs and arguments. Here is where it irks me, when someone who claims to be building a brand uses as a tool. Many online savages have a...
Ever had a day planned out in your head perfectly, you tell yourself that you got things covered. The day itself then starts feeling like chaos 2 hours in, by the time midday hits you just want to give up cause nothing seems to be working out. End day when you finally...
Sex is the number source of confusion in a toxic relationship. No, I lie, GOOD SEX is the number one source of confusion toxic relationship. It can easily make one believe that they are in love and everything is going to be ok when in fact they were just horny and the...
feminismLearn to pronounce/ˈfɛmɪnɪz(ə)m/ nounthe advocacy of women's rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes. the advocacy of women's rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes. patriarchyLearn to pronounce/ˈpeɪtrɪɑːki/ nouna system of society or...
This was a very tricky topic to tackle because I mean we have normalized the saying, ‘fake it till you make it.’ I listened in on a radio show a few months back, it was Tech Thursdays on Heart and Soul radio (catch them every Thursday between 3-4 pm), they had a guest...
Is it even possible in this digital world? I bumped into a tweet just yesterday and it read, ‘social media is fake I wish y’all knew.’ Of course, I paraphrased that but it made me stop and think for a minute. We see it, so it exists but the story behind it is what we...
I am very passionate about communication, I have lost relationships with many people from lovers, friends to the family because of poor communication. I wish I could drill the importance of effective communication into people because WOW! For those who did not read my...